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How to Get Over Relationship Anxiety
  • 08/09/2018 - Written by:

 With over half of marriages ending in divorce, one wonders "Why? What happens? How come so few make it?...And the ones that do, how happy are they?" These are all relevant, valid questions that should be explored; hopefully before one takes the plunge into a deep...

What to Expect in Marriage Counseling
  • 07/08/2018 - Written by:

Couples seek marriage counseling for many different reasons. From infidelity to emotional affairs to depression and addiction problems, couples often seek a guide to navigate issues that feel overwhelming. It is a natural question to wonder what happens in marital therapy. Many clients worry that they will be ganged...

Smartphone Detox
  • 06/07/2018 - Written by:

I see lots of couples in my practice. One of the first interventions I do is to have the couple list all of the ways they avoid eachother. Almost always the top three consist of email, social media, and texting: in other words, the phone. This article suggests what we'...

Not Talking About Mental Health is Literally Killing Men
  • 05/06/2018 - Written by:

The seventh leading cause of death for men is suicide. One in five men will develop a chemical dependence. Millions of men in this country suffer from depression. Although this article is a screener for a series of discussions that will take place in MensHealth, it nicely covers the need...

Helpful Phrases to Calm an Anxious Child
  • 04/08/2018 - Written by:

Many children suffer from anxiety and it is sometimes our impulse as parents to minimize their feelings. I will often hear parents say, "What does she have to be anxious about- she's a kid," or "I think he's angry." Anxiety is not only real...

The Importance of Trust in Relationships
  • 03/04/2018 - Written by:

It almost seems cliché to say that a relationship has "gotta have trust." John Gottman elaborates in this article about just how necessary trust is to relationships. He also expounds on communities, families, regions, and nations. The jaw dropping moment of the article...

The Making of an Expert
  • 02/05/2018 - Written by:

This article by the Harvard Business Review highlights a simple idea: expertise comes from practice. They use many examples of how practice makes expert chess players, great coaches, fine surgeons, and inspiring leaders. As a therapist, I would like to also join the conversation that practice helps with our relationship...

Self-Acceptance
  • 01/05/2018 - Written by:

   I can let you in on a secret. When I meet a new therapy client, no matter what the issue or diagnosis, I walk them back to my office thinking "I'm going to try my best to help this person self-accept." Leon Seltzer illustrates...

Can you limit your sitting and sleeping to just 23 ½ hours a day?
  • 12/04/2017 - Written by:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUaInS6HIGo In this video, Dr. Mike Evans suggests that movement is the single best thing we can do for our physical and mental health. He quotes 40% and 50% reductions to anxiety and depression, respectively, in people who move for 30 minutes per day. “We...

Be Kind to Yourself
  • 11/05/2017 - Written by:

            If my therapy office had a book of the month it would be Kristen Neff’s Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. I have copied chapters five six and seven many times in the last month. The crux of the...

Moving Beyond Mistakes in Marriage
  • 10/03/2017 - Written by:

Marital therapy, couples counseling, pre-marital counseling, and relationship exploration all have one thing in common: the process of discovery. The great couples therapist Harville Hendrix recently stated at a talk "Notice your partner is not you." The process of discovery may lend itself well to noticing this fact....

Want to Raise Successful Kids? Science says stop praising kids for their innate or God-given abilities, and instead focus on their effort.
  • 09/05/2017 - Written by:

 Executive Psychological Resources is a practice designed for adults. However, the attached article features strategies for encouraging child resilience and increasing problem solving skills. This article reminds me of how often adults have questions about parenting strategies and how to tackle a host of issues. Early in my practice,...

Building Resiliency
  • 08/10/2017 - Written by:

Resiliency is a term that is gaining momentum in the mental health world. I first heard it discussed during my time at the VA in Hampton, Virginia; the discussion hinged upon how to increase our psychological capacity to absorb trauma. I like to think about resiliency as the amount of...